1. Please, I hope you know you’re not alone. Many guys and girls
at school feel the way you do. Talking in a social situation may not
come about naturally and can be developed but it takes practice.
2. To increase your socialization and begin to work with your
shyness, remember that people enjoy talking about themselves, so ask
about the other person. A question, or comment, can be about anything;
compliment the other person about their shirt.
3. Smile and just say, “Hi” while in passing. If you have passed
by them more than once, introduce yourself.
4. You do not have to sound brilliant, or cleaver; just be
yourself is the most important. Remember, everybody is different and
that is what makes everyone special, including you.
5. Do you share something in common with them: class, sports,
music? If so, ask them about it.
6. Begin by smiling and talking to as many people as you can in
passing. It is friendly and pleasing to others who receive this
greeting. Remember, it is important to make this about them and take
the focus off of you. Remember a time when someone approached you and
the positive feelings you felt.
7. Keep in mind, many people have insecurities, some
insecurities are different and some insecurities are the same as
8. Be honest. Be considerate.
9. Develop your own interests; join a club, volunteer with a
community organization, join a sports team.
10. Remember that many people appreciate being noticed. That is how
you make friends of both genders.
11. Stay in touch with your friends; call them, ask them to do
12. Do your best in whatever you do because it feels good within
yourself, and others will notice when you feel good.